Say we have free time, and if it so happens our boyfriend is free as well, it's alright to put our boyfriend first, and hang out with friends later. We understand it doesn't at all mean we love our friends lesser, it's just that we choose to be understanding, and just not selfish, because you know that's how YOU yourself about your boyfriend. You just want to spend all your time with him, you can't help it. And for sure, someone who hasn't been through it herself would never understand this.
And do you notice that when couples are dating, they spend all their time together, but when they get married, they MAKE time for their friends? It's like, the normal cycle of life. It happens to almost everyone. You need a break. But when you're mabuk cinta, it's different. You just want to be with that person every second of the day. Not to say that married people cannot be mabuk cinta, but you're secure, and you know you're coming back home to him, and he is coming back home to you. That's the difference.
I already ask this friend's permission if I can publish what she said. I don't think I could ever explain like this to anyone.
3 comments:
Hm, some points are valid..but i also find some points hard to agree with..
sometimes, the cause of a failing relationship is because the couple spends too much time together..there is a risk of the relationship getting mundane, and perhaps even you losing some friendships.. if you spend all your time with ur bf, in some ways, you're decreasing your social circle..and sometimes, that decision has certain implications..especially towards other friendships..
also, why must "the break" come only in marriages? why cant it happen during the courtship/dating period? doesn't that strengthen the relationship in a way, and help you see the relationship more objectively and less impulsively?
lets say a friend invites you for a movie, and so does your boyfriend, and they both want to watch different movies but at the same time..and you have to choose either one..
who would you prioritise? who would you choose?
tricky eh..hehe..
just my thoughts!
sorry for the long comment.. ;p
hehehe thanks for the thought. :grin:
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