Bad friendship experience

I’m sure everyone does experience bad friendship experience. Anna* told me about her bad friendship experience. It is because of one guy who happened to be my schoolmate in primary school. I told Anna about the guy before and she was excited because it turned out that he came to her school and was even in the same class with her. Later that year, Anna’s friend, Liz* likes the guy. Just recently, Anna said a backstabber poisoned Liz’s mind, telling her that she likes the guy. F*** that backstabber. I feel really angry and sorry for Anna. Liz was so stupid, she should have confronted Anna if she was her best friend. It was JUST A GUY and the friendship turned sour. But really, these days anything could happen. The world has become EVIL, I tell you.

It was my first year in NZ School. It was an autumn April day, I was coming out from the office when I noticed an Asian girl, Chloe*. She looked lost so I decided to befriend her. I understand how she felt as she was new and did not know how to speak English that well. From then onwards she became my friend and quite dependent on me. I was happy as I gained a new friend.

The next year, Chloe came back from Hong Kong. She informed me that there were gonna be some new international students in our school. I wanted to make more friends, so I asked Chloe to invite them to join our group. Well.. as they all came from Hong Kong, they spoke Cantonese the whole time. I understood a bit but they did not proceed to speak a language which all of us can understand. Sometimes I felt they were bad-mouthing me right in front of me. They whispered at times too. I did not leave them immediately as I would look a fool and unreasonable. Several times, they included me in their outings and conversation.

Gradually, Chloe ditched me for her friends. During our year 12 school prom, I offered her and one of them, Sam* rides to the venue. There were odd numbers in our group, Chloe decided to partner Sam and leave me out, though she did talked or danced with me a couple of times. After that, I joined them less often.

One time, Chloe told me she wasn’t allowed to sleepover at friend’s house by her mother. On a particular Saturday morning, she called me to cancel our outing as she sleptover at Wendy’s* house. Ok.. so what did she told me before? Was I really dumb?

I left for Oman and Malaysia during the summer holidays. When I came back, she also came back to pack her stuff. She called me to tell me she was leaving for Melbourne. Mum advised to treat her dinner, I was reluctant but agreed since it will be the last time I ever saw her (she kept telling me she will come back to NZ, I don’t think so).

After she left, I emailed her several times as she told me to email her and not to forget her. Well.. I wont forget how she treated me. In fact, it has been more than a year since I saw her. I actually have forgotten her until Anna told me her story.

This taught me a lesson, be careful when finding new friends. If I sense they don’t like me, I should avoid them, dun want to be dumb.

*Names have been changed